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9 Things I Tell Myself When the Going Gets Tough

I admit, being an independent author is not for the faint of heart. Things aren't always easy. You can put a lot of work but the amount of return isn't guaranteed. Certainty is a fleeting cloud easily blown by a breeze. When things get tough, I tell myself these following nine reminders to keep going. Because I sometimes design images, I decided to make this journal post colorful.

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Destiny is Made Known Silently

If I have to describe the last 365 days of my life, I'd call it BORING. 

Sure, I self-published Walden and Hyde (and Other Short Stories) last February, a milestone. Yes, I went to Hong Kong for the third time last October (but I want to go back to Disneyland for the 4th time). Finally, for the first time in my life I looked forward to my birthday. These three events would've been enough to not call my previous year boring. But at the end of the year, the sum of the parts still constituted to a boring whole. 

Let me breakdown my boring 2016 quick:

  1. After Walden and Hyde, I made lots of revisions to I Killed My Friends and It Thrilled Me.
  2. I spearheaded a social media campaign for the local branch of a political-economic union.
  3. I started my career in graphic designing.
  4. My blogging became less frequent towards the end of the year.
  5. I eventually sacrificed going to the gym during the last quarter. 

Work and "failures" were boring. Thus, my 2016 was boring.

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Your Time Will Come | The Illusion and Delusion of Success

If you’re pursuing your purpose and your dreams, it’s easy to fall at times into the mental trap that you’re not making any progress. Everywhere, on traditional and social media, you see people wearing their medals of success with bravado and announcing it to the world. Due to frustration, tiredness, or even loneliness, you feel envious. Thus, you ask yourself, “Why them? Why not me?” You want to turn around, do something else, or, worse, give up. The doubts in your heads have turned friendly.

There are two things you need to remember if you fall into that mental trap: the illusion and the delusion of success.

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5 Timeless Books You Should Read for Your Personal Development

“I love reading.”

That’s one of the biggest lies I ever told in my lifetime, before the last two years happened. I guess it fit into the fact that I was not a sporty guy so I had to assume the opposite stereotype, the nerdy guy who loves to read. But aside from famous novel series such as J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter and Rick Riordan’s Percy Jackson, a couple of Paulo Coelho’s novels, great classics from Mark Twain and Johanna Spyri, and a few odd selection here and there, I didn’t really love reading.

You wouldn’t find me going into book stores at least once every week to buy at least one book. You wouldn’t see my lips curve into a big smile at the sight of a Kindle sale. You wouldn’t see red lines and highlights on any of my books. You wouldn’t see a “Yeah I read that already” look on my face upon encountering a book mention in another book while reading it. I know I didn’t really love reading then because I love reading now.

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#ThinkAboutIt - It's More Than Just Coffee

First, it's also persistence.

Howard Schultz, in trying to raise private equity money, was turned down 224 times. That's a lot of rejection! Most of us give up on something after three failures or rejections. Some even do after giving things a try only once, a horrible thing to even think about. We completely forget that not everything aligns right in the first attempt. Imagine if Schultz gave up on his 223rd time. I will probably never discover the heaven that is Americano if that's the case.

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How to Tell If You are Confident With Your Dreams

"What are your plans?"

The question confronted me during a dinner in a Chinese restaurant with a couple of friends. One talked about the local businesses he had set up. The other mentioned the condominium she bought. They turned to me and the question came out.

“I'm writing a book and there's a change of dynamics happening with my career,” I replied.

Though I had mentioned on separate occasions to both of them that I was writing a book, I hadn't mentioned anything about my career. The steel confidence I felt when I answered the question surprised me. Flashbacks of shameful and doubtful opposite moments immediately streamed through my brain while waiting for the dim sum, pork, vegetables, and rice to arrive. “You've come a long way baby,” I mentally told myself after briefly recalling the past. “I'm proud of you.”

Being a writer is my dream. Talking about it used to be a dream within a dream, a reflection of my lack of confidence with it. But things have changed. I'm confident now.

How can you tell if you have confidence in your dreams?

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11 Quotes to Help You Live a Meaningful Life

We love quotes, reading them, looking them up, and sharing them. They provide either a quick dose or a heavy wave of inspiration and motivation to us. What's best about them is that they may appear trivial but, truth be told, a lot of them contains wisdom. Their sources passed them to us from various point in times. They're gold. They're timeless.

Here are 11 quotes you should know and reflect upon. Let them serve as guidelines to help you live a meaningful life. 

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