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The Inner Journey is Our Compass

This year, despite the political shenanigans, personal disappointments, career bumps, and even financial setbacks, I will not call 2017 a shit year. I will not look back on it and say, “That’s the year my Twitter timeline was flooding with negative local news.” Also, “That’s the year I got financially fucked because of an ill-planned investment.” Why? Because the world isn’t always a happy and worry-free paradise. That’s the reality.

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5 Things You Should Let Go and 5 Things You Should Embrace in Your Life

My name is Just Around The Riverbend and I have a confession to make: I strongly (gasp! an adverb) believe our lives should be in a flux. Like a river that never stops flowing, our lives should be in constant motion. Stagnation is one of the worst crimes that can be committed against human existence. If we're not moving, then we've become stagnant.

In the previous three years of my writing career (equivalent to the timeline ofwriting my novel I Killed My Friends and It Thrilled Me), I've learned a few life lessons that impacted not only my writing but also how I look at life. These lessons reshaped my mindset and philosophy. I'd grow a nose longer than Pinnochio's if I claimed I haven't changed a damn thing since the beginning of my writing journey. There are five things we need to let go and five things we need to embrace in order for our lives to be in a flux of growth.

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3 Lessons The Achievement of a Dream Can Teach You

My favourite expression ran rampant in my head when I looked at the copy of Walden and Hyde on my iPad. "Holy guacamole!" More than 10 years had passed when I first imagined I'd author a fiction book. Many things had happened since then. I pursued a different path, lost a lot of confidence in myself, sank a few times into depression, questioned my existence, rediscovered myself, and, finally, wound up on the path meant for me. I both wanted to cry and leap for joy as I browsed the book from beginning to end. "This is it baby. You have written a fiction book," I muttered to myself.

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The Friendship Manifesto (10 Commandments to Create a Meaningful Friendship)

I wrote a letter, to my friends and my future friends, about how I think friendship should be. But I changed my mind. Why write a letter? It felt like pleading, desperate. Friendship, like any good relationship, must be two-way. It must begin with me. I should state what I want from it instead of squeezing myself into the empty cracks of the other person to form a whole. And if the other person reacts in a negative way, then that's an obvious clue the friendship will never be two-way. Never ever beg for the acceptance of another. Let's be ourselves to draw the right people to us. Quality over quantity. You can be friends with a thousand people but if you're compromising yourself, the friendship is in no way genuine.

Below are the ten commandments of a good friendship, the kind we should all be striving for. In this time when it's easy to "connect" with another person, think about how many connections serve nothing good at all. Make it a checklist if you must, which you can use in evaluating your friendships. Let's give it a better name, something stronger and powerful. Let's call it The Friendship Manifesto, which will contain our new standards in cultivating a healthy, positive, and great friendship. Pull a friend to your side, read the manifesto together, and start building a relationship that will motivate and inspire you from here on out.

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