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Are You an Apologetic Bitch? (3 Aspects of Your Life You Need to Stop Apologizing For)

Are you an apologetic bitch?

Do you find yourself feeling worried when someone's about to force you to do something you don't want to? Do you find yourself scared of saying "no"? Do you find yourself guilty of explaining and justifying your actions to others? If you said yes to all these questions, then you are (gasp!) an apologetic bitch.

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Vulnerability is Not Weakness

Falling in love with our Day Two, I believe, is something everyone should learn. I read on my Twitter timeline someone saying we're not in an "information age" but rather an "entertainment age". So living in the entertainment age, everyone's become more interested in the problem and the solution/the happy ending, but people these days don't want to go through their Day Twos anymore. While shortcuts can sometimes be very helpful, I think in personal growth and mastery, it's a definite NO.

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Accepting the Revolving Door of People in Our Lives

How many of us fail to learn to stand on our own two feet because we can't let go of the truth that nobody can do the walking for us? How many relationships go to an untimely bitter end because either party wants to keep the other tied to a chain? How many of us get stuck in a cruel passage of time where everything around us has moved on except for us? There's a revolving door of people in our lives, one that must constantly go on moving. If we stop it, nobody can get out but nobody can get in as well. If we just let it be, yes people can get out but others can go in too. Whatever we choose, the outcome will be the same.

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3 Relationship Truths in Every Major Life Transformation

Shifts in our relationships during a major life transformation are cause of our biggest pains. Criticisms, doubts, putdowns, and abandonment. We'll get them directly or indirectly. We wonder why people we know so well are suddenly behaving in unfamiliar ways. On top of the effort required by our major life transformation, the attempt to understand and solve any visible or invisible issues with our shifting relationships adds to the weight. We should be focusing on the important matters in front of us and yet these people around us are not helping any by causing some disturbances. There are three relationship truths we must remember when we're going through a major life transformation to avoid further problems.

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8 Beliefs to Help You Stop Judging Other People

When we judge other people, we waste time and energy that could be put to doing something productive instead. Our energy gets depleted. We suddenly feel tired and weak.

When we judge other people, we relinquish power to them. They get our attention. They get under our skin. They take away our energy. They stain our mind with negative thoughts. They win. We lose. Simple as that.

When we judge other people, we put a wall between them and ourselves, an invisible barrier unseen but felt by both party. The chance of forming a connection to them is lost.

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6 Reasons Why You Should Admit Your Mistakes

Now that we're living in a world where our lives have become more public, what used to be difficult has become MORE difficult - admitting our mistakes. Whereas before we didn't like the prospect of hurting our pride and bruising our ego that came with admitting our mistakes, now the fear of ridicule from others added on top of that. Really? Why? I

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How to Prevent Yourself From Becoming Your Own Worst Enemy

Pinpointing out the things that push us away from our true path is easy because we've been wired to attribute to external factors the events in our lives. We blame the weather, the traffic, the intermittent Internet connection, or the lack of time for our failures and shortcomings.

If we're not pinpointing things, we're pinpointing people instead. We blame the weathermen, the traffic enforcers, the repairmen, or even our mothers for not miraculously adding more hours to a single day.

 

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The Invisible Fear of Managing the People in Our Lives (and Why You Should Address It)

Fear has plagued society for so long people no longer scoff at the sight of it. Fear of heights, of the dark, of animals, of the new, of change, of death - you name it, there's a fear for it. A lot of people has been enslaved by fear and they miss out on life's great adventures because of inactivity and hesitation, the result of letting it rule them . Sometimes, people choose to conquer their fears, moving past the stage of awareness. But sometimes some fears are not obvious like the fear of managing the people in our lives. We are afraid to face the reality that we must control our relationships with others and let them control us instead. But we mustn't. 

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