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31 Quotes For the Gifted Adults Out There

Every word and every sentence brought forth more emotion. There in the cold office pantry, what used to just be a children story for him was quickly turning into something else, a reflection and a revelation of a life that wasn't easy to travel. The vulnerability of the ugly duckling he felt as if he was the little creature himself, whose sadness was brought about by the imperative need to belong. Why don't I belong? Why am I different? he thought. It's because I'm so ugly! he and the ugly duckling cried in unison. Tears slowly trickled down his cheeks.

You don't understand me, the ugly duckling protested. The man nodded. Understand. That one word burst the balloon that had been swelling in his heart for many years. All his life, he had lived with some unexplained loneliness: he didn't share the same interests with most of his peers, couldn't relate well to others for some reason, and, at times, viewed the world oddly. He carried on with the story just like he did all his life, trudging on, hoping, wishing, and dreaming for some salvaging light to show him the way and answer his questions. 

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Choose Your Lonely (2 Types of Loneliness)

People you know look at you as if you're crazy:

"Oh dear you haven't seen the latest episode of The Walking Dead yet?"

"Did you see my Facebook post? It has a hundred likes and a gazillion comments already."

"We had a great time without you. You sure missed out big time."

"Pizza is yummy. Pizza with lots of pepperoni is super delicious."

You smile, say something like "Cool!", and return to working on your manuscript, writing an email follow up to that someone important, or eating your broccoli (because broccoli is healthy, yummy, and super delicious too). Then you realise you're alone. They don't join you because what you're doing is not fun. On the other hand, seeking attention on Facebook and gossiping about other people are fun and important. And yes, don't forget the pizza (because pizza is yummy and lots of pepperoni is super delicious). Unless what you're doing satisfies people's need for instant gratification, be prepared to being alone.

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#ThinkAboutIt - The One That Got Away

I'm sorry that your heart is broken. 

You didn't ask for it. Nobody does. Who in their right mind asks for heartbreak, their hearts ripped out from their chest, thrown to the muddy ground, and stepped on? Because of your frustration, you pick up the telephone and call the radio DJ. He asks you to share your story, live on air, for everybody to hear either for amusement or concern. He is thinking whether to make fun of you or offer some words of warmth before he plays that sad love song that will surely make you cry, the exact thing you hope you don't have to do. You can't help it. Tears stream down your cheeks as you air out your tragedy to a stranger on the phone and to strangers across the air waves.

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5 Important Questions You Should Ask Yourself Right Now

Do your friends share nothing else in common with you except for the fact that you went to the same school or work at the same office or live in the same neighbourhood?

Did you enter into a romantic relationship with your partner because it was better than being alone?

Is your weight getting out of control and the temptation of processed food, smoking, drinking, and the sedentary lifestyle has you mightily wrapped around its finger?

Have you not started building your <insert your dream skill> skill yet because of a myriad of strange excuses?

Is your career unexciting, unfulfilling, and imprisoning you as the days go by?

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8 Emotions You Will Feel When You Start a New Career

It doesn't matter whatever the time or our age is because true living does not have a time and an age limit. It also doesn't matter what we currently have. What matters is that we start (or start again). We can take control of our life and finally get on the path we really want. I know because I did.

After a decade of ignoring my dream inside the shell, I let it out. Then I found myself back at the bottom of the ladder of a new career and soon enough I felt overwhelmed. I learned why some people hesitate to start a new career. They don't want to deal with the overwhelming emotions that are packaged with it.

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Signs That Your Online and Offline Selves are Incongruent

Picture the physical version of yourself. A face on a head. Limbs made of flesh and bones. You have clothes on unless you go naked all the time. You have a unique set of mannerisms. And a name, unseen but spoken and written.

Next, conjure a picture of your online version. A face on a head, which is mostly a square and sometimes a circle. Limbs made of flesh and bones which sometimes we see or not depending on whether the square would show it. You have clothes on too, the best you have I must say, unless you like going naked all the time too. Your unique set of mannerisms we cannot see unless you are a moving series of images accompanied by a recorded sound.  Finally, a name! Sometimes spoken but always seen and always written.

Now, what's the difference between the two?

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