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"Unburning" The Rice (Commitment to Vulnerability Opens the Way to Heal Years-Old Wounds)

Years-old wounds, such as negative self-beliefs, hurts, disappointments, and anger, are not easy to heal. Let alone almost three-decades of it. That's why when I first "met" the other members of the book club I thought, "What the hell have I gotten myself into?" On my own, I already had a hard time acknowledging my wounds. My admission to the book club would require me to do exactly that.

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#ThinkAboutIt - Do You Celebrate Your Small Victories?

I can’t recall all my personal victories I let pass without my acknowledging of them. 

I didn’t keep track. I didn’t even count. 

I never did. 

For most of my life, I thought the only thing worth celebrating was the attainment of the ultimate goal. All the preluding notes toward the grand orchestral finish didn’t warrant any mention, recognition, or merit. As long as the big prize is still yet to be coveted, there’s no reason to celebrate

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3 Signs You're Traveling for the Wrong Reasons

“Buy experience, not things.” This statement has become popular lately, especially when traveling became “common” (thanks to social media). And I strongly agree with that four-word sentence. Using money to attend a seminar for self-improvement, enrolling in a course, or getting a gym membership yields lots of return on investment over buying a new pair of sneakers, a new smartphone, or even (dear Mermaid, forgive me for what you’re about to hear) a Venti Coffee Jelly frappé (whew, I still love you coffee 😍). But when this statement is used and twisted by people trapped in the Travel Game to justify their insatiable desire to keep on traveling, it becomes a hammer placed in the hands of a baker. “Well, I bought a plane ticket that will take me to the Bahamas instead of buying a new pair of Nike. That will be experience!” But if that plane ticket puts you in debt, you’re only fooling yourself.

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Get Rid of Your TGIF Mentality

What if one Friday you wake up and the world tells you "TGIF is a trick you muthafuckin' suckah! I designed it so that establishments will be guaranteed you'll spend money on them every week. I designed it so that you'll be miserable half of the time. I designed it to lure you away from doing things you ought to be doing because you have to spend your weekends at a bar, in the movie house, and some other place built for entertainment."?

What must you do?

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#ThinkAboutIt - The One That Got Away

I'm sorry that your heart is broken. 

You didn't ask for it. Nobody does. Who in their right mind asks for heartbreak, their hearts ripped out from their chest, thrown to the muddy ground, and stepped on? Because of your frustration, you pick up the telephone and call the radio DJ. He asks you to share your story, live on air, for everybody to hear either for amusement or concern. He is thinking whether to make fun of you or offer some words of warmth before he plays that sad love song that will surely make you cry, the exact thing you hope you don't have to do. You can't help it. Tears stream down your cheeks as you air out your tragedy to a stranger on the phone and to strangers across the air waves.

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#ThinkAboutIt - Paradise is Prison? Safety is the True Enemy?

Horror aside, I found the film beautiful and fascinating at the same time (Confession: The film is my introduction to the Attack on Titan universe). It made me ponder about the smallness of life. Us humans think we are the best thing on this planet since sliced bread. But with just one swoop of a hungry Titan, we become breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a midnight snack perhaps. Our life ends in the most disgusting and horrifying manner, no chance of it being ever romanticised. It's one of the worst ways to expire from Earth.

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8 Emotions You Will Feel When You Start a New Career

It doesn't matter whatever the time or our age is because true living does not have a time and an age limit. It also doesn't matter what we currently have. What matters is that we start (or start again). We can take control of our life and finally get on the path we really want. I know because I did.

After a decade of ignoring my dream inside the shell, I let it out. Then I found myself back at the bottom of the ladder of a new career and soon enough I felt overwhelmed. I learned why some people hesitate to start a new career. They don't want to deal with the overwhelming emotions that are packaged with it.

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The Insidious Horror in a Teenager's Life

There's something beautiful and poignant when you go see a movie and get something more than entertainment from it. Whether it be a lesson (What The Edge of Tomorrow Made Me Realize) or a sign (How to Attract Synchronicity into Your Life), it's those unexpected moments that add some magic in our lives. It's as if the universe went for a break from its busy schedule to personally say hello to us. 

A few weeks ago, I went to see Insidious: Chapter 3 in a theatre with a friend. I remembered Part 1 but didn't know Part 2 existed. That didn't matter. The movie turned out to be a prequel. That didn't matter too. What mattered was the special message inserted in the movie. I would probably rank Part 1 higher than Part 3 if we went by the scare scenes but I would put Part 3 above Part 1 because of the special message in the film. Who would've thought that in a horror movie I would find something to ponder about, something that touched my soul, and something that rang true for most people on Earth? Not me. Definitely not me.

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