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10 Random Life Lessons (From Death to Reason to Family)

Call it getting old or whatever you want but the more I find contentment in my real life the less I have the energy to share it. I’m not saying sharing your life on social media for public consumption is wrong. However, some appear to overdo it complete with powerful captions and hashtags of jubilance, which sometimes prompts you to think, “Is all this an attempt to feign a ‘happy life’?” Last year, I had lots of good and happy events, I missed sharing online because I was too busy enjoying them so much. We don’t need the likes and favourites of online strangers to validate that we are living a good and happy life.

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When the Oppressor Becomes the Oppressed (Tales of the Universe's Weird & Wicked Sense of Humor #1)

Every time she refused my invitation, the following thoughts flashed in my head:

  • "Ugh. She's so boring."
  • "Excuses. Excuses again. She's being selfish."
  • "I should take off my blinders and see her for what she really is - uncool."
  • "Maybe it's time to admit this friendship is one-sided."

She had to write because there's a looming deadline and money must be earned. Her primary job's salary wasn't sufficient. We were both breadwinners. I should've understood that but I didn't.

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Accepting the Revolving Door of People in Our Lives

How many of us fail to learn to stand on our own two feet because we can't let go of the truth that nobody can do the walking for us? How many relationships go to an untimely bitter end because either party wants to keep the other tied to a chain? How many of us get stuck in a cruel passage of time where everything around us has moved on except for us? There's a revolving door of people in our lives, one that must constantly go on moving. If we stop it, nobody can get out but nobody can get in as well. If we just let it be, yes people can get out but others can go in too. Whatever we choose, the outcome will be the same.

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5 Tips to Become a Better Listener

When you interrupt someone who's talking, you're sending two messages: you don't care about what they're saying & you don't care about them, enough for you to warrant cutting them in the middle of speaking. Now imagine if the table was turned and somebody cut you off. How would that make you feel? Disrespected? Unimportant? Unworthy? Communication is both talking and listening. You can't have one without the other. Don't be like other people who only do the talking and disregard the other ingredient of communication. Let the other person finish speaking to show that you value what they have to say and, most importantly, them.

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The Friendship Manifesto (10 Commandments to Create a Meaningful Friendship)

I wrote a letter, to my friends and my future friends, about how I think friendship should be. But I changed my mind. Why write a letter? It felt like pleading, desperate. Friendship, like any good relationship, must be two-way. It must begin with me. I should state what I want from it instead of squeezing myself into the empty cracks of the other person to form a whole. And if the other person reacts in a negative way, then that's an obvious clue the friendship will never be two-way. Never ever beg for the acceptance of another. Let's be ourselves to draw the right people to us. Quality over quantity. You can be friends with a thousand people but if you're compromising yourself, the friendship is in no way genuine.

Below are the ten commandments of a good friendship, the kind we should all be striving for. In this time when it's easy to "connect" with another person, think about how many connections serve nothing good at all. Make it a checklist if you must, which you can use in evaluating your friendships. Let's give it a better name, something stronger and powerful. Let's call it The Friendship Manifesto, which will contain our new standards in cultivating a healthy, positive, and great friendship. Pull a friend to your side, read the manifesto together, and start building a relationship that will motivate and inspire you from here on out.

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