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When the big cloud of darkness
loomed over the horizon,
we got scared, petrified,
of that diabolical person.

In the haze of confusion
we did not dare speak.
His huge army could turn
brave people meek.

Their weapon was groupthink,
capitalising on the herd.
Us odd men with a voice
caved to fear, went unheard.

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#ThinkAboutIt - Do You Take Risks?

Ever since my awakening to my life's purpose, I've been more sensitive to messages and winks the universe sends my way. There was that time a Mark Twain quote knocked me off the cinema seat figuratively while watching The Equalizer. There was also that time I found some wisdom in Insidious: Chapter 3. Also, watching Moana made me cry silently inside the giant, dim room of the theater as the song "How Far I'll Go" tugged at my soulstrings. You see, I'm no stranger to experiencing pseudo-psychic and "New Age-ish" lightbulb moments while watching a film. It happened to me again last Monday when I watched Jumanji: Welcome to the Jungle.

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The 10-Question Test to Verify If You Are Really Living with Purpose

Have you found your purpose in life? Are you sure you did? Here's a 10-question test to confirm if you really are living with purpose. 

  1. Do you prefer staying in bed every morning?
  2. Do you fear failure?
  3. Do you compare your life to those of others?
  4. Do you allow what other people say to influence what you do?
  5. Do you find the weekdays a drag?
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"Unburning" The Rice (Commitment to Vulnerability Opens the Way to Heal Years-Old Wounds)

Years-old wounds, such as negative self-beliefs, hurts, disappointments, and anger, are not easy to heal. Let alone almost three-decades of it. That's why when I first "met" the other members of the book club I thought, "What the hell have I gotten myself into?" On my own, I already had a hard time acknowledging my wounds. My admission to the book club would require me to do exactly that.

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How to Tell If You are Confident With Your Dreams

"What are your plans?"

The question confronted me during a dinner in a Chinese restaurant with a couple of friends. One talked about the local businesses he had set up. The other mentioned the condominium she bought. They turned to me and the question came out.

“I'm writing a book and there's a change of dynamics happening with my career,” I replied.

Though I had mentioned on separate occasions to both of them that I was writing a book, I hadn't mentioned anything about my career. The steel confidence I felt when I answered the question surprised me. Flashbacks of shameful and doubtful opposite moments immediately streamed through my brain while waiting for the dim sum, pork, vegetables, and rice to arrive. “You've come a long way baby,” I mentally told myself after briefly recalling the past. “I'm proud of you.”

Being a writer is my dream. Talking about it used to be a dream within a dream, a reflection of my lack of confidence with it. But things have changed. I'm confident now.

How can you tell if you have confidence in your dreams?

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#ThinkAboutIt - Paradise is Prison? Safety is the True Enemy?

Horror aside, I found the film beautiful and fascinating at the same time (Confession: The film is my introduction to the Attack on Titan universe). It made me ponder about the smallness of life. Us humans think we are the best thing on this planet since sliced bread. But with just one swoop of a hungry Titan, we become breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a midnight snack perhaps. Our life ends in the most disgusting and horrifying manner, no chance of it being ever romanticised. It's one of the worst ways to expire from Earth.

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3 Relationship Truths in Every Major Life Transformation

Shifts in our relationships during a major life transformation are cause of our biggest pains. Criticisms, doubts, putdowns, and abandonment. We'll get them directly or indirectly. We wonder why people we know so well are suddenly behaving in unfamiliar ways. On top of the effort required by our major life transformation, the attempt to understand and solve any visible or invisible issues with our shifting relationships adds to the weight. We should be focusing on the important matters in front of us and yet these people around us are not helping any by causing some disturbances. There are three relationship truths we must remember when we're going through a major life transformation to avoid further problems.

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