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The Inner Journey is Our Compass

This year, despite the political shenanigans, personal disappointments, career bumps, and even financial setbacks, I will not call 2017 a shit year. I will not look back on it and say, “That’s the year my Twitter timeline was flooding with negative local news.” Also, “That’s the year I got financially fucked because of an ill-planned investment.” Why? Because the world isn’t always a happy and worry-free paradise. That’s the reality.

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Your Time Will Come | The Illusion and Delusion of Success

If you’re pursuing your purpose and your dreams, it’s easy to fall at times into the mental trap that you’re not making any progress. Everywhere, on traditional and social media, you see people wearing their medals of success with bravado and announcing it to the world. Due to frustration, tiredness, or even loneliness, you feel envious. Thus, you ask yourself, “Why them? Why not me?” You want to turn around, do something else, or, worse, give up. The doubts in your heads have turned friendly.

There are two things you need to remember if you fall into that mental trap: the illusion and the delusion of success.

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3 Tips on How to Deal With Family and Friends Not Supporting Your Dreams

Nothing is more disappointing than offering blood of commitment and tears of sacrifice to the fruition of your dreams only for it to be met with the sound of crickets and an army of tumbleweeds from your family and friends when you finally achieve it. The release of my book Walden and Hyde (and Other Short Stories) gave me that exact experience.

It was no secret, the signs had been all over the place. Chasing my dream of penning a fiction book was a road that I had been traveling for two years. I often talked about it in my blog. I frequently posted about it on social media. It possessed my life for months, weeks, days, hours, and minutes. The past two years was spent toiling away in solitude to move words from chaos to order. By virtue of action, it was plain to see that I passionately wanted it. 

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How to Prevent Yourself From Becoming Your Own Worst Enemy

Pinpointing out the things that push us away from our true path is easy because we've been wired to attribute to external factors the events in our lives. We blame the weather, the traffic, the intermittent Internet connection, or the lack of time for our failures and shortcomings.

If we're not pinpointing things, we're pinpointing people instead. We blame the weathermen, the traffic enforcers, the repairmen, or even our mothers for not miraculously adding more hours to a single day.

 

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30 Life Lessons Before Turning 30

Disclaimer: This is not part of my numeric series. My last post was for 9. I'm not going to skip directly to 30.

Today is my 30th birthday (woo!). I'm really excited about starting a new decade and what life has in store for me. I would like to look back at 30 important life lessons I have learned so far, three decades on this magnificent planet.

  1. Our childhood is one of the most important phases in our life, good and bad memories aside. What we really want to be and do in our lives can be traced back to our childhood years.
  2. Health is wealth. You may not think it is when you're younger but it will be a hard lesson you will learn when you get older.
  3. Nobody will be there for you throughout your lifetime except yourself. People will come and go.
  4. However, there are some awesome human beings who will be loyal to you and will be there for you as much as they can. They will love you with all your strengths and flaws. Love them. They're rare.
  5. “Busy” is a big fat lie.
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