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When the big cloud of darkness
loomed over the horizon,
we got scared, petrified,
of that diabolical person.

In the haze of confusion
we did not dare speak.
His huge army could turn
brave people meek.

Their weapon was groupthink,
capitalising on the herd.
Us odd men with a voice
caved to fear, went unheard.

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Why You Should Be a Passionate and Principled Person

It was a pleasure to burn.

No, I didn't mean to plagiarize Mr. Ray Bradbury. His opening sentence in his acclaimed novel Fahrenheit 451 described perfectly how I felt (and still feel). It is, indeed, a pleasure to burn.

When I was a teenager I was insecure (weren't we all?) and I hated those who appeared the opposite (didn't we all?). Unfortunately, I didn't stave off the insecurity as much as I wanted to in my early adulthood. I kept hating, in secret, those who brimmed with fire. 

I hated passionate and principled people and it irked me, because deep inside I wanted to be like them.

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3 Lessons The Achievement of a Dream Can Teach You

My favourite expression ran rampant in my head when I looked at the copy of Walden and Hyde on my iPad. "Holy guacamole!" More than 10 years had passed when I first imagined I'd author a fiction book. Many things had happened since then. I pursued a different path, lost a lot of confidence in myself, sank a few times into depression, questioned my existence, rediscovered myself, and, finally, wound up on the path meant for me. I both wanted to cry and leap for joy as I browsed the book from beginning to end. "This is it baby. You have written a fiction book," I muttered to myself.

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#ThinkAboutIt - Do You Celebrate Your Small Victories?

I can’t recall all my personal victories I let pass without my acknowledging of them. 

I didn’t keep track. I didn’t even count. 

I never did. 

For most of my life, I thought the only thing worth celebrating was the attainment of the ultimate goal. All the preluding notes toward the grand orchestral finish didn’t warrant any mention, recognition, or merit. As long as the big prize is still yet to be coveted, there’s no reason to celebrate

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How to Tell If You are Confident With Your Dreams

"What are your plans?"

The question confronted me during a dinner in a Chinese restaurant with a couple of friends. One talked about the local businesses he had set up. The other mentioned the condominium she bought. They turned to me and the question came out.

“I'm writing a book and there's a change of dynamics happening with my career,” I replied.

Though I had mentioned on separate occasions to both of them that I was writing a book, I hadn't mentioned anything about my career. The steel confidence I felt when I answered the question surprised me. Flashbacks of shameful and doubtful opposite moments immediately streamed through my brain while waiting for the dim sum, pork, vegetables, and rice to arrive. “You've come a long way baby,” I mentally told myself after briefly recalling the past. “I'm proud of you.”

Being a writer is my dream. Talking about it used to be a dream within a dream, a reflection of my lack of confidence with it. But things have changed. I'm confident now.

How can you tell if you have confidence in your dreams?

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8 Emotions You Will Feel When You Start a New Career

It doesn't matter whatever the time or our age is because true living does not have a time and an age limit. It also doesn't matter what we currently have. What matters is that we start (or start again). We can take control of our life and finally get on the path we really want. I know because I did.

After a decade of ignoring my dream inside the shell, I let it out. Then I found myself back at the bottom of the ladder of a new career and soon enough I felt overwhelmed. I learned why some people hesitate to start a new career. They don't want to deal with the overwhelming emotions that are packaged with it.

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8 Beliefs to Help You Stop Judging Other People

When we judge other people, we waste time and energy that could be put to doing something productive instead. Our energy gets depleted. We suddenly feel tired and weak.

When we judge other people, we relinquish power to them. They get our attention. They get under our skin. They take away our energy. They stain our mind with negative thoughts. They win. We lose. Simple as that.

When we judge other people, we put a wall between them and ourselves, an invisible barrier unseen but felt by both party. The chance of forming a connection to them is lost.

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